One night I took my wedding ring off along with the other jewelry I wear everyday. The next morning it was the only thing I didn’t put back on.
I can’t really say why I didn’t put it on. I can say it has nothing to do with symbolizing being ready to move on. Three short months since Kevin’s passing, I’m far from that.
For me, though, wearing my wedding ring kept me in a place of confusion. I was always wondering;
“How long do I wear this?”
“What does it symbolize now that my husband is gone? My marriage or the loss of my husband?”
“Do family and friends expect to see it for a certain period of time, as a symbol of my grief?”
“How do I know when to take it off?”
It was too much to consider on top of everything else that weighs on my mind .
While I’m not wearing my wedding ring, I do wear these
everyday in remembrance of my husband.
The Pandora bracelet is the one he bought me for our anniversary last year. It was our 5th anniversary, hence the #5 charm. I added the deep purple charm in place of a keepsake for his ashes. Purple was his favorite color, representing his beloved fraternity, Omega Psi Phi. Unlike my other Pandora bracelets, the charms on this bracelet were chosen by my husband or for him. I consider it complete.
The Superman ring was a ring he purchased on our first and only cruise together. He wore it everyday since. Superman was one of his favorite childhood superheroes and he was my Superman. Wearing this ring and bracelet everyday, there are no questions or confusing thoughts. Just comfort.