I knew better. Completely went against my own advice to NEVER wash ones hair when one has a packed schedule. And boy did I have one that day! Picking up the tickets for my sorority’s annual holiday party, a stop by the toy store to pick up an one of my son’s Christmas presents, a dentist appointment, and grocery shopping. Still, I ran the water for the shower, fully intending to wash, deep condition, hot oil treatment AND style my hair as though I had the whole day ahead of me when I actually only had a few short hours prior to party.
Could I pull it off?
Well, I gave it the ‘ole heave hoe. And all things considered, I think it went well.
With exception to the hot oil treatment and not having adequate time for my hair to fully dry (in the back) I was totally ready for a night out with my sorority sisters and friends! But, for sure, it was perfectly dry for church on Sunday so there was no love lost.
After this ordeal, one thing I’m most sure of is that I MUST get more beanie hats! The only one I have–red– just happened to match the theme and my outfit (not pictured, sorry) for the party.
Between now and the New Year there’s sure to be a ton of parties to attend. Help me prepare for the next time I have to pull a rush job and still look fabulous! What are some of your favorite hurried hair style that works for those special occasions.
Post pics if you’ve got ’em!
“Do you know it’s 7am?” My husband spoke into my ear.
“Uh…yes…no…uhh…not really.” I stammered as I forced my eyes to open lifting my head from the pillow that added to my comfortable slumber. As indicated by the words I spoke, I had no idea it was time for me to be leaving the house for work, NOT just getting out of bed.
Hair problem #1
I didn’t cover my hair up before climbing into bed knowing good and well I was going to sleep.
Dry hair, specifically dry ends.
Hair Problem #2
I didn’t prep my hair for how I was going to wear it to work (i.e. Two strand twisting or plaits). I planned to twist it but my back was hurting and I took a muscle relaxer for relief. Then I exercised for abt 20 minutes. After all that I was pooped!
No time for a full length shower, carefully choosing my clothes AND styling my hair. I was forced to choose which necessary act I would dedicate more time to. I threw on some jeans and a sweater (after a really fast shower), then stared at the reflection of my dry, curl free (not in a good way) and wondered what I could do in 5 minutes or less.
Here’s what I came up with…
The all-too-familiar puff!
Honestly, I didn’t feel very professional on this day and I almost blamed it solely on the hairstyle. However, the truth is that it was everything from my head to toe–jeans and gym shoes–that created this feeling. If I wasn’t natural and instead wore my hair straightened today would’ve been a ponytail day or a drab wrap kind of day and I would have felt the same way.
Moral of the story–Don’t blame your “natural” hair. Everybody has bad hair days.
Overall, I was pleased with my visit to the salon and my results. The stylist was punctual with my appointment and I was impressed with the call I received prior to the appointment ensuring that I was still coming on time. Dual consideration for myself, the stylist, and her appointments after mine. Hats off on that one.
Next it was pure pleasure to lay my head back in that sink, allowing someone else’s fingers to massage my scalp. That alone was worth $50–bump the style!
Moving on to detangling and styling.
My stylist did both, seemingly with great ease. Instantly made me wonder why I stress over it like I do. Hmmm.
Because I had an event the next day I opted to leave my flat twist in tact until the next morning. I didn’t want my sleep to be disturbed with worrying about messing up my curls.
That worked like a charm. Besides some of the straight ends in my hair–no fault to the stylist–I loved the style and I managed to maintain it for the following week, which I deemed satisfactory. Honestly, I was tired of the maintenance after a few days but I pushed through just because I paid for it.
What I especially loved about my style was how smooth my roots were, which I attribute to the stylist use of gel as she flat twisted my hair. I’ll definitely be implementing that next time I do my own flat twist out.
While I loved the salon experience I’m not sure when I’m going again. Right now I’m leaning towards once a month. I’ll keep you posted.
Please share how often you visit the salon? If you are a primary DIY’er, is it worth the cost?
Finally made it! I’ve been passive aggressively trying to find a natural hair salon to visit.
“Whoa?” You’re saying. “I thought you naturals only did your own hair, L.A. What’s up with that?”
Honestly, many naturals are DIY’ers (do it yourselfers). However, many also frequent a salon for their hair care–whether for deep conditioning, protein treatments, or maybe styles they can’t do themselves, like weaves and other extensions.
As for myself I definitely have my times when I don’t feel like bothering with my hair. I don’t want the responsibility. Then I call around and get quoted prices like $65, $75, and $85 to do what I consider to be simple hairstyles–two strand twists and twist outs. So my money conscience self overtakes me and I push past the frustration and go at it.
But the frustration eventually returns. Usually with a vengeance.
It’s not all about the frustration. The bottom line is that today’s busy working woman needs some time when she can sit and be pampered, whether it be a massage, pedi/mani, facial, or a good hair wash and style!
So today is the beginning of my monthly pamper time. Stay tuned for the results in my next post!
Yes, sometimes you can feel like this or worse when you’re trying a new hairstyle.
Rest assured, though, natural hair gets better with time, patience, and practice. When I combed my locs out–going on 2 years now–those first several months I promise I was going to cut my hair or re-loc my hair because I was struggling. Washing, detangling, and trying to find cute, easy styles to wear my hair for any occasion. Everything was a challenge.
Hopefully the tips I’ve compiled based on my experiences will help you along your journey. Check the out:
1. Until you become master over your hair, don’t wash your hair on a day you’ve got ten other things to do! You won’t be a happy natural.
2. Watch YouTube with caution. See a style you want to try. Practice. Practice. Practice. You’re NOT going to get it right on the first try ( usually). So you might not want to try to throw that style when you’re about to go out.
3. Wear new styles in the comfort of your home a couple times before you debut it to the world (okay, just your family, friends, coworkers). You need to get used to the new you before you’ll feel totally comfortable with it. Believe me, you’ll need that self-confidence to combat some of the rude, insulting, and UNSOLICITED comments.
Share your own tips in the comment section below. We naturals have to help each other out!
Thought fathers were exempt from my hair crushes? Not at all! This month’s hair crush is my very own husband who’s rocking starter locs!
He won’t admit it, of course, but I know my loc rocking inspired him to start his journey (albeit ironic that he waited until I combed mine out! We could’ve been rocking locs together.) By the way in the above picture, yours truly did those twists! Not too shabby, huh?
He’s got that soft curly like hair so his hair is taking its sweet time loc’ing but as long as he doesn’t give up, they’ll be loc’d in no time.
Side note: Mine might be too! 😉
Happy Father’s Day honey and all other dads doing the dad thang!
As comfortable as I’ve become without locs, there’s simply no denying that certain things will always trigger a string desire to retreat:
1. Exercise. Sadly, now that I’m back to straightening my hair, I’m experiencing that Black woman’s dilemma when it comes to exercising. I don’t care how much “I am not my hair attitude” that I claim to have, when I fork over some hard earned cash to get my hair done, there’s no way I’m going to allow myself to intentionally sweat it it out for the sake of fitness! Instead, I have to plan my workout–at least the intensity of it–based on my hair. Didn’t think I’d be back here again, 😞
2. Water. Y’all wouldn’t believe how fast I getting to running for cover when it’s start raining and I don’t have my umbrella. Sure you would, ’cause you do it too😄 if you’re rocking straight hair. SMH. I really miss not being afraid of getting my hair wet. It shouldn’t be that serious BUT it is!
3. Making Hair Appointments. Seriously! I think I’m supposed to be rich ’cause I need a stylist that works on my schedule. My weekdays and weekends are too unpredictable to have any kind of set hair appointment..
Yes! Yes! Yes!
I’m so excited that I finally got my bun right! And as I’ve heard many natural hair youtubers profess, it IS all about the gel. Not the type of gel, per se, but the amount of gel used.
Some people may not have a problem with that but I tend not to follow directions when the word “generous” is involved. Lol. While I can attribute that to my frugality, that’s done nothing for my buns of the past.
But this time I finally got it right. And I added some Marley hair for extra volume.
Whatcha think? I think I’ve found my summer staple hair style.>
There’s a time and a season for everything and that includes hair styles. For the last few months I’ve been rocking my straightened natural hair with the brief departure for some kinky twist extensions. I don’t know if it’s the lack of pizazz I felt after my recent visit to my hairdresser for a press & curl or if I’m just over it right now, but I’m ready for a different style.
Surprisingly, I’m leaning towards a bun, my least favorite protective style. Why don’t I like buns, you’re probably wondering? The answer: I’m not partial to hairstyles that require gel. Why? Because I don’t like restrictiveness. Once that bun is up there, the only way to get it down is wetting the hair.
Yet, I still want one. Guess I’m tired of my hair hanging, knowing that’s not good for my ends. Sooo, the next pic I post will be with my bun. Maybe.
Stay tuned… 😀
Yep! It’s true! I love Zumba Fitness! But, on a recent visit to the first Zumba instructor I ever went to, I was quickly reminded that the high intensity fitness class is no more for the faint of heart than it is for the straight hair natural girl!
This exhilarating class that allows participants to dance like nobody’s watching to the best hip hop dance mixes combined with Latin beats not only burns the 600-700 calories it promises to, but it definitely leaves a girl drenched from sweat. Though I was having a ball with all the shoulder rolling, hip rolling, and chest pumping–all while adding my own flava of sexy– honestly, in the back of mind I was thinking about my hair! I’m sure the only ones who weren’t were the ones rocking weaves, locs, and other protective styles like two strand twists and extensions.
I thought I had did something–wrapping my hair and tying it up tightly with a satin scarf. Humph! Even allowing it to dry overnight was no match for the workout that my roots received.
So what’d I learn from this experience? I can still include a good Zumba workout in my exercise regimen BUT when I’m rocking the press & curl, Zumba must coincide with hair appointment time!
Funny how times change. I never would have thought I’d be back to allowing my hair to dictate my physical life. We’ll see how long this lasts? Stay tuned.
If your living this straight hair natural life, how you work in your fitness?